larrynjr Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 I don't think I've mentioned this here yet, but my step son commited suicide the beginning of this past summer. My wife is creating a memorial garden for him in our front yard and asked me to make a cross to go into it. This is what I came up with. I used some "scrap" steel and riveted the pieces together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irnsrgn Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Ok, but the top is bare, should be the same as the ends on the cross piece, just doesn't "sing" as some say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Mulholland - Tetnum Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 its nice the top is a bit bare but it looks fineto me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irnsrgn Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Also, no offense intended, but its on the small side, most any flower will hide it, The Cross should be the focal point of the Memorial garden, It should draw the eye of the onlooker to it immediately, chest or waist high would be much better. Think of it as the CENTER PIECE of the garden. Make it stand out. remember you asked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larrynjr Posted December 4, 2008 Author Share Posted December 4, 2008 remember you asked. Actually I didn't ask, I was just displaying what I had done. It is as tall as I intended it to be. The cross is "NOT" the focus of the garden, it is only a component of the garden. My wife is a very independant thinker so this is a very non traditional garden. Her son liked "weird" stuff and so it is a cactus garden. (There are at least 15 different cactus types so far with more to come. She is also creating a sign post, with arrow pointers of his favorate places in Wa. state. That will be another component. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
czbohunk Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Looks cool to me ,Wish I could think up stuff on my own like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John B Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Good job Larry, you put the effort and emotion in, and thats not easy on a project like that, sorry to hear of your loss. For those who want to get critical, have a go at the pictures I have attached. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meinhoutexas Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 love the idea of the cross. Do what you want and tell the rest to go take a hike! And like John B. sorry to hear of your loss. Ps heating and beating good therapy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flaming S Forge Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 You had an idea, followed through and made something to fulfill a specific purpose. You know better than anyone else what you were planning to accomplish. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oakwoodironworks Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Good Job ! Sorry to hear of your loss. What a nice way to remember someone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
primtechsmith Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Nice job Larry. Everyone always has an opinion about something....but the important thing here is the fact you made it for your son's memorial garden. I think it is fine just the way it is! Sorry for you and your family's loss. I hope making this helped in the grieving process...post some photos of the memorial garden too when it is completed. Regrads, Peyton Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TASMITH Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Well done. It is a tribute to someone who will be surely missed.Something made from the heart should never be open to criticism. Sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lysdexik Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 To laugh much and often. To win the respect of inteligent people, and the affection of children. To earn the appreciation of honest critics, and endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty. to find the best in others. To leavr the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition. To know that even ONE life has breathed easier because you have lived. THIS IS TO HAVE SUCCEEDED. A true success, congratulations, and I for one wish you and your wife MANY more. Paul. It's always too soon to Quit.... It's not over... Untill we Win!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griz1955 Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 sorry for your loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodeye Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Very nice memorial cross - rugged elegance. I too am sorry for your loss - the emotions that I am sure flowed heavy while the cross was being created will make it a special addition to the garden. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt in NY Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Very nice. I hope that it brings your wife a bit of comfort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doug C Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Great work. You made it the way you and your wife wanted, the use is noble. I hope the garden and all in it helps your family in the grieving process and in the memory of your wife's son. I am sure your efforts on the cross helped both you and your wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
divermike Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 I would be proud to have that in my yard, well done. Sometimes people mean to be helpful and come across as negative, life is too short to get our undies in a bunch over stuff like that. As the others have stated, we greave with you, and hope to see more of your projects in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longhunter Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Very nicely done sorry to here about your loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheftjcook Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Larry, I am sure your wife will treasure it! God Bless you and your Family Tim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt in NY Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 This post stayed on my mind and I came up with how fortunate you are to be able to do something for your wife, something that she has asked for, something to help her. These situations leave us so frustrated because we often feel a strong sense of powerlessness. I pray that it helps to ease the pain of a terrible loss. The more I look at that cross, the more I see that it is perfect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larrynjr Posted December 5, 2008 Author Share Posted December 5, 2008 Thank you all for your kind responses. It has been a difficult time for us, my wife especially. I recognise that the "quality" level of that cross is less than perfect, (not something I would think of selling commercially) but it was presented here more in the spirit of why it was made and not for critical evaluation. I appreciate that you all understood that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irnsrgn Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I apologize Larry. I misread the post and my criticizime was uncalled for. I know how you feel believe it or not. I lost my son at age 17 in 1987 and I essentially have never gotten over it. He always wanted a tall flagpole in the front yard as he was a very patriotic boy, he was killed while on a Civil Air Patrol Training Mission, and within a week there was a tall flag pole in the front yard, and after checking up on the subject, I fly his Funeral Flag on every Holiday and important military day in history. There is also a memorial FLag pole at his school that the wife and I donated in his name. Again I APOLOGIZE for my post. Respectfully Jr. Strasil Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larrynjr Posted December 6, 2008 Author Share Posted December 6, 2008 Apology accepted Jr. I actually hadn't had time to get close to my step son, my wife and I were still short of our 2 year anniversary when it happened, he was 21 and recently released from the Navy with depression issues. It is of course hardest on my wife and for me hard to see her go through this. She is working very hard to move on with life but I know that it is something that you NEVER get over. I certainly sympathize with your loss and know that it is something you feel every day. Thank you all again, Larry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
S.Willis Posted December 7, 2008 Share Posted December 7, 2008 Looks good to me. Nice work Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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