Mark, my 13 year old son started doing this stuff in early May. We had met a couple of guys from the Arizona Artistic Blacksmith Association a couple of months earlier and they let us know about an upcoming class. The class ran one day per week, 3-4 hours in the evening, for 8 weeks. It was great. They covered a lot of territory, the hands-on was priceless.
They used two books, one was by Mark Aspery, The Skills of a Blacksmith vol.1,
and The Blacksmith and His Art by J.E. Hawley
I also have The Backyard Blacksmith by Sims.
The book by Sims has is nicely done and the pictures are in color. It's a nice initial presentation of the subject and might appeal to a youngster. Mine liked it. But from the standpoint of usefulness later on, the other two books are content rich.
And there are lots of other books that are great too, I just don't know about them.
Try if you can to meet with the local or the closest Blacksmith people or association. I think you will find them to be very helpful to a young guy who is trying to start and a Dad who is picking up the tools.
For videos, youtube really has quite a bit on the topic.
But the easiest full access source when starting out is likely this place, iforgeiron.com