Retired farmer

Hi all . Sorry to intervene. What I am trying to do is private message a member . I have found him in a discussion. Tapped his icon . Got to his member info page . Both myself & wife looked for private message icon , could not find it . So thought maybe that's an option , that said member can decline receiving private messages . So checked 3 other long time members ,to see if the private message icon was available . Not on any I checked . So am I as unlucky here as gambling ! Yes I'm logged in.  Please advise to correct procedure to private message a member . Thank you.