Just a month in and you are well on your way.
A few suggestions that may make things a little easier. And these are only suggestions.
I do not wear gloves but if I do, it is a thin leather glove on my tong hand only. I never wear a glove on my hammer hand. I cannot control the hammer with any degree of accuracy if I am wearing a glove.
If you haven't yet, make yourself some different tongs. I noticed that the handles were pretty wide while grabbing the thicker stock of the spike. Very wide grip on the tong handles doesn't allow you to get as good of a grip. Plus you can make tongs that fit different thickness and shape stock. Having a piece of hot iron fly out of your tongs towards your face is a rude awakening. Trust me, this is experience talking (typing).
I have cut the handles of most of my hammers short. I see where you are holding yours and that is good for control. If I need a harder strike I use a heavier hammer or get a striker.
Just a few things for you to think about. It all boils down to your choice.
I like your forge. What was it in it's former life?
And your blower is a good idea. PS, your wife might want the fan put back in the bathroom ceiling when you're done. :)